Hopefully I’ll have more time to blog now and to get in touch with friends on a more personable level.
One day as I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed I came upon THIS link that one of my friends had posted. After clicking on the link and watching the heartfelt video I broke down crying and once I composed myself I began thinking about how horrible it would be if I was in the same position. I would hate to find out that someone in my family or one of my friends had only 2 months to live and they could be saved if we were able to find a donor. This seriously woke me up and I realized that although I might not be the perfect match for Janet Liang I might be a match for someone else’s child, friend, family member, or loved one. My parents have ingrained in me their motto which is, “Haz el bien sin ver a quien” roughly translated to “Do good without seeing to whom.”
Right after watching the video I headed out to a local drive that I found through Be the Match but unfortunately the drive ended before I was able to get there. I ended up ordering a kit from Be the Match which I received about two weeks later and today I will be sending it off. Both my parents and the hubby have their reservations about me become a donor but when I began to explain to them why I was doing it they felt more at ease.
The kit comes with great instructions and it is very easy to use. All you have to do is swab the inside of your cheek four times and send it back. It takes about two months to process everything and that’s it. Once you have registered you will be in a system and if they ever find a match they will call you up.
I’ve decided to share this story with all of you guys since I believe that the more people hear about it the more people might actually go register. I believe we are all connected to each other and we need to stop being so selfish. If you can’t or don’t want to go register then share this with everyone you know someone might be touched enough to go do the same thing.
I got an email a couple of weeks ago saying they finally received my kit. It will take about a couple of months to put me in the system.
I’m fortunate enough to have married someone that makes me feel loved all year long and not just on Valentine’s day. I’m truly blessed because my hubby and my mom tell me they love me on a daily basis and I know that there are people out there who are not as fortunate as I am. I’ve had a lot of death in my family and I believe that you should tell people how you feel every chance you get. If you’re reading this and you haven’t told someone you love them today please do so now. Remember that life is precious and you might not get another opportunity to tell someone you love them. If on the other hand you are someone that hasn’t heard those words in a long time please know that this stranger sends you her love. I love you guys and without you I would not have anyone to blog my stories to.
Like I previously mentioned I began this blog when I was planning my wedding and now it has grown into my personal outlet where I share with the world my inner thoughts. Okay, so I might be exaggerating a tad but I do like sharing with you real things that are going on in my life.
Here is my dilemma:
A close friend of mine has a broken heart (yes it is a friend and no it’s not me) and I don’t know how to fix it. I feel like I might be taking a different approach than my other friends and I don’t know if I’m being too insensitive. Let’s just say that the love of her life did something that he shouldn’t have and they broke up as a result of it. I love her dearly and even had her stay at our apartment for a couple of days until she finds her own place. The problem is that a lot of our mutual friends keep texting me and asking me what they should do to cheer her up. I believe that she should have time to “grieve” the relationship and then go out but my other friends are adamant about taking her out. Please keep in mind that this happened a few days ago.
The questions I have for you are:
- Do you believe infamous claim once a cheater always a cheater?
- Should someone have a grieving period after a relationship ends? If so how long?
- Am I being too insensitive by not taking her out and about myself?
- If your best friend had a broken heart what would you do to cheer her up?
I should know the questions to all these answers but I feel that it’s always good to get an outsiders perspective.
I would appreciate any feed back you can give me as I attempt once more to help my friend mend her broken heart.
9 years ago today a boy took a girl on a date…
On March 26, 2001 a boy, who I thought was only my friend, took me on an unbelievable date. We where both 19 years old at the time and working together at the “Happiest Place on Earth. Little did I know at that time that this very quiet and shy boy would end up being my husband. I should have known he was a keeper when a dozen long stem roses arrived at my house before our date began. The best part was that they weren’t cheesy red ones, in fact I don’t think he’s ever given me red roses. When he arrived I was extremely nervous and I could tell his nerves were worse than mine. We ended up going bowling first at a really old bowling ally that no longer exists. Once traffic died down (remember that we live in Southern Cali where traffic is horrible) we headed off to the Santa Monica Promenade where we walked around getting to know each other. At this point I was completely intrigued with him and the manner in which he made me think. We made the usual small talk but somewhere in between it we realized that our political ideals, values and morals were very similar. This boy really made me think and I love that about him. With the night fast approaching we headed off to Long Beach where he said he was going to give me a tour of the city. He took me to Signal Hill where he showed me the spectacular view from up there, I was completely swoon. I was falling fast for this boy and I hadn’t realized it before. When he took me home I hesitated to go into my house because I was really enjoying talking to him. Once I knew I had to go in my heart began to palpitate faster as I began dreading the kissing question. Should I or shouldn’t I kiss him on our first date? Well needless to say I decided not to. He gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek as he said good night. This made me want to kiss him even more. He later told me that he regrets not kissing me on our first date because he really wanted to.
Fast forward to 9 years later…
We are still completely in love with each other and he still makes me think. In fact I fall in love with him more with every passing day and I’m glad that the boy took the girl on the date.